Going back to study set the scene for this piece written in August 2019. It was fun to drop in some real-life characters and experiences from my past and play with the aspects of fear, the way they manifest themselves, and the inventive ways people deal with exam pressure.
People cheat when they are afraid.
When there is no cost to being wrong or confessing ignorance, there is no
reason to cheat or fake comprehension.
—Leah Hager Cohen
I’m not sure if I should be sharing this tale with you my dear
Reader and confidant, as the mere thought of the word ‘cheater’ fills my heart
with dread and my mind with endless possibilities of deception, loss, and the
occasional triumph. Consider, if you will, for a while and recall your cheating
moments, the successful, the brazen, the boast-worthy and tell me, I dare you,
that you don’t feel the same way? I can picture you squirming in your
comfortable armchair, feeling somewhat dirty, rotten, and that you are not worthy
of that warm embrace from your loved ones at the end of the day. Am I correct?
Of course, because you–you have a conscious, just like me.
No matter the size or the impact of the lie, the stretching of
the truth on our tax returns, or cheating the kids at Uno, there is always a
pang of satisfaction of getting away with something you know you shouldn’t, quickly
followed by the thought of taking a step further. A simple deception leading to
the next and the next, increasing the risk, return-on-investment, and of course,
the real reason we do it– excitement.
By now, I’m sure you’re thinking my story is one of a card
cheat, a bank robber or a dirty philanderer. I must confess that I have never
been, nor am, any of these. Although I’ve dreamt of being one–several times.
But I’ll keep my fantasies to myself, unless you are willing to share yours?
I’m just a regular Joe, there’s no way I’m going to tunnel
into the vault at the Bellagio, marry a rich and beautiful supermodel, or take
Kerry for every last cent of his hard-earnt stash. My story is one of
deception, of courage, if you like, but also one honed from nothing more than hard
graft. I’ll take you back shortly to the recent past, but first the building
blocks must be placed gently one on top of each other, squared, levelled and
cemented to give an accurate picture of why.
It’s 1988 and Maggie was in her prime. School was the
institution that would break you, wouldn’t, and couldn’t, bend to accommodate
if you as much as pushed an inch in an alternative direction, and it existed in
my conscious as a thing to avoid, at all costs. Picture me; a reasonably
intelligent sixteen-year-old left-hander facing bombing my final exams purely
on the fact that they insisted I used a fountain pen and that no-one, not even
me, could read my scrawl after it somehow magically leaked out of my brain, dribbled
off the nib and was immediately smeared across the page by my flabby palm. How I
wish I was born right-handed, but apparently lefties are nicer people, more
generous and better lovers, so there you go; right handed scissor wielding
world–we may not be able to write but we’re still better than you! I bet you
don’t even care that our language was devised by right-handers, consider a beautifully crafted ‘d’ ‘u’ or ‘z’, they’re
designed to being pulled across the page, rather than pushed kicking, screaming
and smudge-worthy by the one-in-ten pen-pushers.
Picture an English summer over thirty years ago and the
first year of GCSE. Students have been cramming for finals and I’m faced with
the all-too-prevalent pre–exam nerves. There’s nothing to be done to try to
quell the beast. It starts to grow a few days in advance, disturbing my sleep
with anxious pre-dawn wake-up calls, and breaking my concentration with pangs
of sheer panic. I just know that no matter how hard I try to push it away it
wells up in the pit of my stomach, gurgling and bubbling away until I open the
exam paper, flip to the first question and try to relax. The alternative isn’t
particularly pleasant either. It involves several pre-exam trips to the
bathroom…but I’ll spare you the details, and me the embarrassment.
We enter the exam hall with trepidation and are faced with
row upon row of exam chairs with their hard wooden varnish and the silly flip
down arm rest/desk arrangement. Even at the ripe old age of fifteen the boys
had to squeeze themselves in, and, in my case, hunch and twist over the thing
to try and complete our papers. Apparently ergonomics hadn’t been invented in
the 80s, and the world didn’t seem to understand that it is almost impossible
for a leftie to use one of those things. Oh yes, I can hear you nodding in
silent agreement my can-opener-hating friends.
The headmaster calls for silence, explains the rules, and
it’s down to business for the next hour and forty-five. I open my paper, read
the first question and my mind goes blank. I can feel the heat rising up my
neck to my face and warming my teenage armpits. I know I’ll fail miserably, not
through want of trying or lack of revision, but down to the simple fact that my
nerves get the better of me every time I sit an exam. I read it again and from
somewhere a foggy recall appears, so I snatch my ink encrusted spear and get
cracking.
About forty five minutes in old-Bradbury declares ‘One hour
to go’, pulls out the paper and settles down. I picture him at home in front of
the fire, reading the news and promise myself I’ll never be like him. A discernible sigh fills the room and with it
a shift in atmosphere. The rustling and fidgeting begins. I take a peek at the
student beside me–it’s Claire White, brains, beauty, and out-of-my-league
attitude–slowly prising her shoe off with the tip of her as quietly as possible,
until the leather lands gently, inaudibly, on the dusty parquet. I pretend not
to see as she feigns knocking her eraser to the floor for a quick peek at the
answers inside of her black, shiny, Bata.
I’m shocked and stunned more from the method of deception
than by whom. I would never have thought it possible of Claire to even dream of
cheating, let alone devise such a method. Ah, that’s right she has an older
sister, Teresa, apparently, she was a straight-A student too…it must run in
the family. Unnerved I take a look at Bradders, he’s engrossed in the paper,
head down and oblivious to the ruse. I can’t concentrate, my attention turns to
the other kids in the room and their almost imperceptible movements. In the row
ahead to my left there’s Joanne Richardson, peeking down her ample top, squinting
to see the lines of text scribbled in the hastily sewn strip of white fabric
nestling her boobs. Surely, if she can get away with it the entire year must be
up to something? I check again on the old man, apparently he’s drifted off into
a semi-catatonic state and has been staring at the same page for a while. I
check the clock and realise I’ve wasted valuable time ogling the girls. Any
other day I’d get a dirty look, or a snide comment about never getting the chance
with a barge pole, but today they are far too engrossed in what they are doing
to care.
Surely the boys can’t be up to it as well? I crane my neck
to take a peek at Alister, my best mate of over five years. Oh my God, he’s
blatantly reading from a tissue on the desk while keeping an eye on Bradbury–just
in case he glances up from the sports page. Even the bi-spectacled Chung, our boffin,
is unravelling a neatly folded accordion of paper from inside his eraser which
must be nearly a foot long.
It’s then I realise that if the smart kids need to cheat to
pass this exam that I don’t have a hope in hell. In an instant I’m enraged and jealous.
Why do they think they can cheat…and get away with it, and why the hell hadn’t
I thought to? I feel as if I should stand, identify the guilty and revel in the
justice they deserve. Do I though? Do I hell. I stick my head down and keep
pushing my smudgy effort across the page while trying to block the images of the
others getting straight-As from my mind.
Life fast forwards to another century and a different type
of exam. Listless, bored and frankly underwhelmed with my profession of nearly
twenty years I took the plunge back into study. Knowing I was never great at
exams I’ve worked on some techniques to assist with studying and the inevitable
exam pressure over the years. Post-it notes, highlighters, repetition and
additional research all seem to work well, but I still just can’t seem to hack
the exam-day pressure. This qualification will give me a chance to follow a
passion I’ve developed. That is, if I can pass. I know deep down this is what
I’d like to do and still recall some of my greatest teachers. Mrs C, our German
teacher exuded so much passion that we had no choice but to love her, enjoy her
classes and try our best. Then there was the customer-service trainer who
flipped my thinking, took hold of several pre-conceived ideas, threw them in the
air and landed them in a neat, orderly pile of comprehension. But balancing
angels with demons, we had Gripper, living up to his name in a painful,
no-bruise fashion. He’d take your forearm and squeeze tightly until his
fingertips touched bone and we’d squirm, promise not to do it again sir, and go
back to our seats with a painful throb that would last until the end of the
school day, then magically disappear before getting home to show Dad. I guess, after
all, there are a few things that are best left in the Eighties – like teacher
brutality, and the slippers Harris used to wield at our heads.
So, after all these years, I’m faced with the tummy
rumbling, toilet-visiting fear again. All over a simple exam for which I know the
answers to and am confident I’ll pass. I’m determined to nail it, so I work and
work, until the answers float across my closed eyes at the end of the day. I
refrain from posting the answers on the back of the toilet door, it makes sense
since I know I’ll be visiting, frequently, but otherwise, I’m head down in
revision.
It’s during one of these sessions–the cramming type–not a
visit to the bathroom, that Chung, and his concertina eraser floats back. Mmm,
I wonder if…just a little help wouldn’t hurt, would it? I push the
conscientious voice away and get to work on research. There was a news story
about Surendra Kumar Apharya who wrote 638 characters on a single grain of rice
and holds seven Guinness World Records, but quickly realise that’s not a
feasible option for me. Most people can’t read my scrawl at the best of times,
but there’s no way I’d be able to achieve something as amazing as that. So, I
plump for the next best option, a simple, cunning one. Take a small, wide,
elastic band, stretch it out and fill it with as many answers as possible.
During the test stretch it between pencil and finger and voilà, a nice
selection of reminders magically appears. Simples, as they say on TV. What
could be easier, what could possibly go wrong?
The exam is fast-approaching, and I’ve been jotting down the
things I’ve been having trouble memorising. Acronyms, trigger words and
abbreviations collated, I knock up a cheat sheet ready for my first trial run.
I scour the hardware and stationery stores until I find the perfect specimen.
It’s 120mm by 8mm, light brown, designed for use with parcels and packaging,
but the best thing is that it almost doubles in length when stretched. Although
I don’t intend to yank it that far, I might get away with a quick tug, and a peek
at one of those nasties about MTPD, RIA or MBCOs. It even sits nicely under the
sleeve of my business shirt for quick-peek-access. I take to wearing one
everyday so that people get used to seeing me fiddle with the smooth rubber–stretching
it and massaging the powdery-white residue off the surface as if it recalls a
memory, or someone from years ago. My wife, bless her, has no idea, but she’s
taken to gently tracing the small indents with her fingers around my wrist at
the end of the day and wonders why I have taken up such a silly habit at this
age. She mentions that perhaps I should go and check out my blood pressure,
because you know, people of my age with sock marks have been known to die of
high blood pressure, you know.
I take a few practice runs with various ball-points in
black, blue and red until I find one I that works perfectly. It was stolen from
the bank during mortgage discussions a few years ago. I wasn’t even aware that
I’d slipped it into my notebook along with the consultant’s business card
between those jottings of inconceivable calculations which always ended up the
same–that the new house would just have to wait no matter how we threw the
numbers around, cut and diced them, and tried to convince ourselves it was a
good idea.
The pen was perfect, lightweight, the roller smooth and ink quick to dry. She was the perfect partner in crime.
I practiced and practiced–getting my writing down to tiny squiggles that appeared to the innocent eye as a fancy pattern on the rubber from just a foot or so away. I didn’t quite achieve the same world-record breaking result as our rice scribbling friend, but for my purposes it would do. I had a nice overview, I liked to call it, of my chosen subject there on my wrist which would calm my nerves, and with a gentle stretch take me from flunk to felicity. The night before exam day was spent perfecting my rubbery script, the exact amount of tension I’d need to view the results, and of course–in revision. Convinced I wouldn’t need the aide, and that it was there just-in-case, I packed up early, had a glass of wine and went to bed.
I’m back in front of
the headmaster’s desk standing in my white polyester shirt, tie and floppy
shoulder-length Eighties heavy metal kid hairdo and he knows, somehow he knows
that we cheated on our finals and I’m trying my best to convince him that I
wouldn’t, couldn’t, cheat and that I’m innocent. I knew I was fighting a losing
battle as he always despised me for some reason–perhaps it was my youth, vigour
or maybe my way with the female teachers he was jealous of. I guess I’ll never
know.
‘Jones, pick a
door.’ I stare at him uncomprehending. ‘One could lead to wealth, fame and
fortune, the other to what I would call just Mr. Average. The choice is yours.’
‘I beg your pardon,
sir?’
‘You heard me son,
it’s your choice’.
Two identical doors loomed
behind him which I’d never seen before, ‘In you go, but the best part of my
game is that you’ll never know what was behind the other door. Best of
luck laddie.’
I’m nailed to the
floor panicking and sweating with the decision of a life-time. ‘Come on,’ he
stands up and slides round the desk to grab me. He’s wearing a short sleeved
shirt which reveals tattoos that I’ve never seen before. These aren’t your
average naked ladies, rose entwined crosses, or nonsense Chinese, these are
dead straight lines of text stretching from his wrist and disappearing under
his sleeve. They appear to be exam answers of some sort, and I realised that he
must have suffered the same fate me. Surely he was unlucky and ended up in the
purgatorial hell of becoming a headmaster, or was this the better of his two
options?
I walk slowly towards
the doors, favouring the left of course, taking just a few steps before quickly
switching to the other. ‘Are you sure, son?’ He presses a button on what looks
like a TV remote and I roll over fumble for my phone in an attempt to silence
it before my wife wakes up.
We kick off early with
group revision where all the personalities come out, whether it’s due to nerves
or the possibility of finishing early and having an extra-long-weekend without
the boss finding out, the class clown, the quiet one, the terrified one all
show their true colours; and I’m no exception. Bradbury springs to mind as we
are going through the final preparation and the trainer is explains the rules. I’ll
be fine this time. I have my little helper tucked just out of sight.
So, we settle down
to one-hundred multiple choice questions over two hours. This may seem a fair task
but the questions, and options are a lengthy read. I nail the first few but
come unstuck at question ten. I jot it down to return to later and continue.
I’m feeling relaxed, a little jumpy perhaps, but let’s see how I get on.
Twenty, thirty, forty pass in a blur and I’ve noted six elusive answers. I hit
the halfway mark, take a quick peek at my watch and note that I’m ahead of time
with only a handful of questions to go back to. But then comes the big one;
question fifty-five…I read, scratch my head and re-read–surely I should know
this one, but nothing comes. I feel the tension rising and I’m starting to
sweat, I jot it down to come back to and move on, but I’m unsettled and
distracted. I scan the room, to my left Michelle is chewing the top of her
pencil and tapping her teeth with the eraser. On my right Chris has his head
about twenty centimetres from the page, I guess trying to work out what the hell
a question means.
That’s it, I’m going
to finish up and then sneak my friend out for a peak. I know I’ve tackled this
question on organisational responsibility before and the answer is within
reach. The trainer is checking email, I guess and looking forward to getting
out of the classroom for the weekend, but he’s also keeping an eye on us and
takes a quick peek at me when I look up for a mo. I doubt I’ll be able to get a
chance to take a look at father’s little helper. His phone vibrates, he
snatches it from the desk and strides out of the room, just like so many years
ago there is a huge sigh of relief. No-one speaks or dares to look at each
other, so I take my chance, grab the band and slide it from my wrist. If he
comes back now I’m done for, I’ll be caught red-handed, heaven knows what I’ll
say to my boss, or whether I’ll have a job come Monday, but I‘m willing to risk
it.
I roll the band in
my fingers, give it a little tug and spot the squiggle of words. I’ve practiced
this a thousand times, so slide the band to the top of my pencil and give it tension.
The words start to form, but either from nervous, the fear of getting caught,
or my clammy hands, I pull too far. The band slips to the top of the pencil and
ping, it floats through the air, hits the window and falls into a pot plant,
clear as day.
I freeze, paralysed my
temples pound and to try and break the spell I fumble with my pencil, it falls
noisily on the desk. I take a look around, it appears that no one has noticed,
as they are all heads down and in their own worlds. The trainer magically
appears beside me and whisper an enquiry as to my well-being. I can’t look him
in the eye, but nodding manically, I catch the end of his sentence…‘strange,…hot
and sweaty, it’s not that difficult.’
Mark gets up, hands
in his paper and leaves. None of us will ever know if he’ll pass, was too cocky
and sped through it, or just gave up, but right now, I don’t give a rat’s
because I check my watch, realise I’ve wasted valuable time, and understand that
I’ve got twenty-five questions, including the ones I’ve skipped to do in
twenty-five minutes. I steel myself, take a deep breath and continue
methodically going through the questions, carefully reading, and re-reading
each one until I’m left with eight minutes for review. I use every second to re-read,
make sure there is an answer for each item, and with one minute to spare,
breathe for the first time in two hours.
It’s over, with huge
sighs of relief and well wishes all round we say our goodbyes and promise each
other that we’ve done enough to get over the line.
I’m on the train home
and hit by remorse. Why did I feel the need to cheat? Did I actually think it
would do me any good? Not really, I got through the exam perfectly well without
my so-called ‘help’. I resolve never to put myself in that position again and
to take the rough with the smooth. No matter what–I’ll believe in myself and
I’ll support and encourage my kids when it is their turn. I realised that the capacity
to identify one’s weaknesses sometimes can only come from within, but it is
only upon this realisation can these weaknesses be dealt with and we can move on
with our life-long journey of self-awareness.
I was delighted the
day my results came and achieved a solid ninety percent. But my joy was tinged
with sadness of course and by the memories of the straight-A students that I’ll
never be, and the thought that I couldn’t achieve something on my own. In the
end though I chose the right door, didn’t I?
So, dear Reader, how
would you have tackled this? Before you go all holier-than-thou on me, tell me
whether you’ve ever cheated, made an error of judgement, or simply wanted
something so badly that you bent the rules beyond breaking point. I think you must
have, after all we’re all trying to make the best out of who we are, aren’t
we?